Grief and Joy

How do we move on after a death of a loved one?  Especially if that loved one was your child.  I have lost a father, a beloved grandmother, a dear uncle and several cousins...but I have been spared some of this pain...not all but some.  (There is still a story to tell here but, it'll have to wait...) 

The time right after a cousin was killed a few summers ago I remember his mother (my Tia) siting by his coffin during the viewing.  She wouldn't budge and just sat there quietly looking at her son.  Every now and then she could be heard asking him "why he left" she was just so sad.  I cried for her that day and many days after because she was in such grief.  She was drowing in it.  When I saw her a few months after she looked aged and still sad (especially around her eyes).  The one difference was that she was no longer drowning.  She had returned to chruch and speaking with a priest.  She was finding healing in the Mass and seeking the embrace of Our Mother.  My Tia still walks a little wounded but, she is living again.  She is embracing new life with the birth of her second grandchild.  And best of all she smiles the way she use to.  Full of Life!

My prayers continue for my Tia and the many mothers who are in Grief and Joy.
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